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2. Dates are always a considerable distance from where he/she lives. Before Baltimore resident Summer* married her current husband of thirty-five years, she was hoodwinked by a cunning Casanova who revealed himself as being married with a baby several weeks into dating Summer under the guise of being a single man. “Every time he would go to dinner it would be somewhere out of the way, but I didn’t think anything of it because it was always a place where he ‘knew someone that could get us a good table’ or a new restaurant that was opening where his friend was the manager.” If dates are constantly taking you to places inconvenient for the both of you and balk at spending time at places that would risk a run-in with people you or they are associated with, this could be a red flag.
3. Negativity. Even the most seasoned of deceivers can suffer from the ache of guilt and anxiety. Although they may have learned how to keep their demeanor on an even keel, Pennebaker notes that a guilty conscience may be relayed through wording rather than mannerisms. Using words such as “hate, worthless and sad” can be indicative of lying.
4. An answer for everything. In the scenario between Danielle and Brad, Brad had an answer for each of Danielle’s accusations and his excuses were devoid of so much as a stammer or pause. Although this may seem like a sign of honesty on the surface, zero hesitancy is actually an indicator of being anything but. Julie Chung, an educator of 16 years, told Real Simple, “Ask most people what they were doing last week and they’ll have to pause and think about it…when I call a child into my office and he seems totally rehearsed—there’s zero hesitation before he answers a question—well, that’s a dead giveaway.”
5. Swearing up and down. Accuse an honest person of a lie and they won’t be asking for a stack of bibles to swear on in order to prove their innocence. “Think of expressions like ‘I swear to God on a stack of bibles’ and ‘God is my witness.’ Most truthful people don’t need to go that far,” Joseph Buckley, president of John E. Reid and Associates told Real Simple.
- Adelson, Rachel. “Detecting Deception.” American Psychological Association. July 2004. (accessed September 29, 2011).
- Blonna, Richard, Lillian Cook Carter, and Jean Levitan. Healthy Sexuality 2nd Edition. Dubuque: Kendall Hunt Publishing Company, 2010.
- Cohen, Arianne, and Lindsy Van Gelder. “How to Tell If Someone is Lying.” Real Simple. n.d. (accessed September 29, 2011).
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