This weekend I was doing my regular shopping and I noticed that some retailers already have their Christmas items out. This year I want to make Christmas a little more special, and I am not going to do it without being materialistic. Last year we spent way too much money for gifts. Now they really don’t have that much to show for it, either it broke or no longer play with it. I know that it’s hard because I always want more for my kids then what I had growing up. Well the truth is they only need 8 lessons for me, so here they are:
The first thing is TIME! What does that mean? It means they need you. This is the only way that you will be able to get to know them and for them to know you. Play with them and you will learn a lot about then like how they behave; deal with rules; dealing with winning or losing; and what brings your child joy. Don’t forget that when you do spend time it also confirms that you love them. Oh and it never hurts to let them win once in a while too.
The Beatles were right all you need is LOVE! Love means so much to us as adults and as children they need it even more. A child’s self-esteem greatly depends on the love they receive. Remember that it takes a long and consistent time for children to really know that you love them.
Everyone needs a good LAUGH now and then. Remember that laughing brings us joy and happiness into our lives and our family life as well. It’s one of the best ways to dissolve anger and frustration. It will make bad times not so bad and from what I hear can add to your health as well. So be silly and watch your kids smile even brighter.
Let’s CELEBRATE! I know we always celebrate the holidays and birthdays, but let’s celebrate the little things too. On Friday we like to do movie night, it’s a great way to kick off the weekend! The weekend is really the only time that our family can really spend time together so we celebrate. We don’t have a big party or anything but we do have a picnic dinner in the living room and followed by a little ice cream while watch a movie together.
PRAY more! No matter what religion you are, it is always better to have faith and hope, and prayer will give them this gift. Give your children the gift of faith. Praying at meal times is a great way to show appreciation for things. Also I would suggest praying at night so your children can take measure of a day.
It’s better to FORGIVE and Forget! Never let your kids go to bed without being forgiven, no matter what they have done. Remember that forgiveness comes from love. This is a great lesson to teach our kids and is a good model of God and God’s love. Also ask for forgiveness from your children when you do wrong by them, like losing your temper. Remember that when they get older it might be easier for them to come to you when something goes wrong.
It’s always better to tell the TRUTH! Children often ask a lot of questions and they have the right to know the truth or an honest explanation of why you don’t want to tell them. Remember that since children have the right to the truth, so do parents. Helping your kids to become truthful is an ongoing process and isn’t easy, especially when they become teenagers. Lying then becomes more sophisticated and often it’s what they are not telling you then what they are telling you. Value the truth is vital for a family.
Last but not least is BOOKS or E-BOOKS! Knowledge is a precious gift! Create a love for reading by reading to them or them reading to you. Set a good example by reading yourself. Urge them to read and read and read so more!