A majority of relationship advice articles focus on what’s wrong or unhealthy in your relationship and then offer suggestions on how to fix it or heal. Although this format can be quite helpful, after reading just so many of these articles, we might feel a vague sense of negativity. To balance the scales a bit, this article is going to focus on examples of positives…what’s right and healthy in your relationship.
- You ask each other “How was your day?” and you genuinely want to know. Then you both listen and share attentively.
- One of you is feeling irritable the other is feeling calm. You are able to state your needs honestly and respectfully…such as I want to be alone awhile or please hold me. And you are both willing to do what the other needs.
- The car keys are missing. Both of you have been looking for them to the point of bordering on frantic. You finally find them in the refrigerator. A sharp spark of realization hits you and you tell your partner that you put them there. With no name calling, belittling or blaming, you both break out laughing.
- You are both tired and yet the grocery shopping needs to get done. He wants this. You want that. Rather than break into an argument, especially over something so trivial, you agree to get both. This gets you out of the grocery store quicker and you have more time to make love when you get home.
- You give each other massages on a regular basis without being asked, nagged or begged.
- You manage your finances together through discussion, not fights. This one is huge, by the way!
- You put yourself in your partner’s shoes when he/she is having a problem. You know that seeing the issue from your partner’s perspective, puts you in a position to be more supportive.
- No matter the length of time you have been together, you love making love with your partner. It’s a joy, a gift, an intimacy like none other. As you may have guessed, this one is huge too!!
- For no special reason, you surprise your partner with little gifts from time to time.
- You do household chores with each other. And rather than complain, you appreciate that you have some time together..
- You view your partner as your best friend.
If the two of you are experiencing even half of these examples, there is a lot right with your relationship. You love each other and you aren’t afraid to express it. Give each other a hug and a kiss and go out and celebrate! And while you are out celebrating, feel free to share the secrets of your successful relationship with those who may be struggling. Love grows even deeper when you share it.