Starting a new relationship is exciting but also challenging because you don’t know what to expect. Be encouraged to go with the flow and know what you’re looking for in a relationship. So many people have their guard up or feel paranoid if this person is the one. The challenge isn’t finding love or the right person. The biggest challenging is trusting your judgment and putting your guard down a little. Not totally down, but enough where someone can get to know you without questioning if you’re mentally okay.
Past hurt or past relationships that didn’t go well can bring back painful memories or spark a revelation that you don’t want to go down that road again. Remember that a relationship is a reflection of you. You attract what you’re feeling or what’s going on in your mind. If you’re in a healthy space in your life, you’re more likely going to attract someone who shares that healthy space as well.
On the contrary, if you’re in a negative space in your life, you’re most likely going to attract that energy in another person. When I speak to individuals about past relationships they always tell me that they keep attracting the same bad boy or bad girl type over and over again. Depending on your relationships in the past there is tendency to get back what you lost whether it’s a good or bad relationship.
Every day, we are growing and learning more about ourselves. The more you know who you are and what you need in a relationship the more confident you’ll be when choosing a potential partner for you. Here some tips to think about in your new relationship: Be yourself. If you can’t be yourself, who are you? You should be comfortable in the skin you’re in. If you’re not comfortable, you may need to work on your self-esteem and confidence. There is one original and that’s you. That is something to be celebrated.
Try not to be too judgmental. People aren’t perfect. You can’t change people. Surprisingly, love does the changing and evolving over time as people mature. Don’t sabotage your own relationship. Avoid picking the person apart trying to find their faults so you find any excuse to kick them to the curb.
Be assertive in asking questions and getting information about a person. That’s how you learn more about a person. Some people want to be passive and don’t ask questions and just assume they met a good guy or girl. Be proactive-it saves a lot of heartache down the road. Don’t forget to have fun in this love journey. Not every man or woman you meet will be the one. However, you can learn from them and learn more about you and what you’re looking for in a mate.