Here in Los Angeles celebrities and stars of Hollywood are called out on a daily basis for their cheating ways. The indulgent lifestyle of the rich and famous Los Angeleans can make an impression on monogamous couples who are drawn to the media and look to Hollywood to know how to act and exist.
If Demi Moore is capable of being cheated on, if Sienna Miller is capable of being cheated on, then where does that leave those of us who are of a less famed caliber? Women run around this town drawn by consumerism, purchasing new lips, boots, boobs, clothes, shoes with which to satiate their men and keep them by their side. I have a less consumeristic and less cosmetic approach to stop the cheating before it starts.
Whether you are two years deep in a relationship, have been married for seven years, or dating only a few months to the tune of being exclusive, cheating and adultery are worst crimes against monogamy you could commit.
The wise and illustrious Tori Amos once sang, “The sexiest thing is trust” and she most certainly is correct. In a relationship trust is one of the key elements. A marriage is a social contract that binds your life to someone else’s by means of love. If the element of trust is never implemented then the foundation of monogamy can never be fully realized. And if you are not going to be monogamous you might as well not get married and not be in a relationship. Do not be selfish and utilize your marriage or relationship as a vehicle for your own infidelity and lack of commitment.
Of course humans are animals and at the core of our primitive existence is the need for sex. To make things clear, when you say “yes” to being in a marriage or a relationship you are saying “yes” to only having sex with the person you are in a marriage or a relationship with. This rule seems to be confusing to many humans currently in relationships. Unless of course you are in an open relationship or marriage, in which case, have at it! The point here is that if you are being trusted not to cheat, do not cheat.
Cheaters become greedy, needy, and manipulative the longer they are left to continue their cheating ways. A cheater must be confronted no matter how high the risk, in order for the sanctity of true love, true relationships, and true marriage to be fully realized. To be breif, if you can’t keep it in your pants, don’t get married and don’t get into a relationship. You are tarnishing your partner’s trust and belief in love and that is just plain cruel. And being cruel is definitely not sexy at all. Cheating is also not sexy. You know what is sexy? Saying “I love you” and meaning it. If you have been the victim of a cheater, or have been cheated upon, the guilt can be overwhelming. Learning to love again by loving and trusting your self can be a step in the direction to beginning to believe in the sanctity of true love and its existence.