Just as it seems that people using dating sites are primed to step forth and admit that such online services are a legitimate means of connecting, someone had to strap on a diaper and set about shaking their rattle in a tantrum worthy of John McEnroe.
For those of you who haven’t read it, Gizmodo editor Alyssa Bereznak torched Magic: The Gathering legend Jon Finkel after a date where she discovered – wait for it – that he plays Magic professionally.
Maturity, we hardly knew ye.
I’m not the sort that plays Magic; in fact, I have an aversion to most card games. However, if someone is good enough at one to earn over $300,000, they have ceased to be a punch line, and that’s assuming they were worthy of one in the first place. Which they aren’t.
Ms. Bereznak closes her treatise on the subject with the introspective assertion that being shallow is in human nature, and invites you to think that her judgment is reasonable because everyone has dealbreakers and Magic just happens to be one of hers. Apparently she either did not watch or did not glean any lessons from the seminal classic Role Models.
At some point, one must ask what the internet has to do with this. Sure, they met on OkCupid, but are bad dates exclusive to the online realm? More importantly, doesn’t the user control their ability to say yes or no to dates? Apparently for Ms. Bereznak, getting a few dozen illiterate messages awards a date to the first person who can string together a sentence. I’d hate to think what would happen if this model were applied by women walking past construction sites.
Sure, dating sites are used by horny idiots who blanket female users with propositions. Plenty of people also use them to put up fake profiles for cam sites. This does not mean that there are not mentally stable, intelligent, fun people available to date. In fact, of the dozen or so dates I’ve been on thanks to OkCupid, I’ve only had two truly unsavory experiences. Maybe that’s because I practice common sense.
Maybe Mr. Finkel should have advertised his status in his profile, and maybe he shouldn’t have taken her to a one man show about the life of Jeffrey Dahmer, but the axe swings both ways. Based on the article, perhaps judgmental, narcissistic alcoholic seeks available male for inflexibly narrow-minded date which may be exploited on the internet for self-gratification would have been a sufficient warning.
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