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Yesterday was my son’s first day in the 2-year-old classroom, which has a new teacher. Today I brought my boy in at 10 a.m., because I didn’t have to be at work until 11. The teacher scolded me and told me when my son comes in late he misses out on colors and shapes review after breakfast, as well as other projects. I said that was fine, but I may have taken it too personally. Should I take my son in at 8 a.m. every morning so he can participate in the curriculum? I enjoy the mornings with my son and I don’t see her side of it very well. If I am home to watch my son, why would I bring him to day care?
Your son’s teacher took the wrong tack with this problem. She had no reason to become snippy or accusatory. However, it also sounds like you did indeed take the situation too personally.
On the surface, your desire to spend time with your son sounds reasonable. And if you are home and prepared to take care of your son, you need not pay someone else to do it. But the story doesn’t end there.
You have enrolled your son in a preschool, not a traditional day-care center. Many preschools make a big deal about their schedule, as the very act of going through the program helps kids get used to a structured education and can make it easier for them to learn at an early age. Your son’s teacher obviously takes her job seriously. Perhaps she takes it too seriously, but I prefer that to the opposite extreme.
If you like the day-care center, try talking to the manager. Some centers will be flexible about pickup and drop-off hours, catering to parents with different schedules. If the center you use insists on the kids attending at set hours, then you have a choice to make. You can either bring the boy to the center at 8 a.m. for the structured program, or you can make arrangements with another day-care center that doesn’t place such a premium on scheduled instruction.
As long as you take the time to research the caregivers, both choices can work fine. Just select the care option that works best for you and your son.
I breastfed my baby, and I can’t understand why other mothers would choose not to do so. Why doesn’t everyone breastfeed their babies?
Few choices are more personal than whether to breastfeed a baby. Despite the numerous benefits of breastfeeding, many women have concerns about it. Here I list just a few of them.
- Some women worry that breastfeeding will cause their breasts to sag. While breasts do stretch during pregnancy and will sometimes begin to sag after pregnancy, studies suggest that breastfeeding is not the cause. At least, that’s what the Mayo Clinic says. Still, many women worry about this.
- Others simply aren’t comfortable with the idea of allowing a baby (or anything else, for that matter) to feed from their bodies.
- Women who have suffered sexual abuse may have trouble breastfeeding.
- Many women who work fear that either the need to breastfeed will hurt their career, or that the hours they spend at work will make breastfeeding impossible. Some cope with this by using breast pumps, a good solution, but not practical in every case.
- Women may also worry about the stigma of breastfeeding in public or about what others will think of them.
In a vacuum, breastfeeding is generally the healthiest choice. But we don’t live in a vacuum, and real-life concerns sometimes get in the way. I would encourage all women to breastfeed because of the health benefits to both the baby and the mother. However, modern infant formulas provide a nutritious alternative for women who, for whatever reason, do not wish to breastfeed.
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