According to a recent study, “Men who make less than their wives may lean toward infidelity because they feel a “gender identity threat”.
This recession has particularly thrown a monkey wrench in the nation’s whole concept of male and female gender roles. The majority (about 3/4) of the 9% unemployed are male, which leaves their wives to increase hours or pick up a second job to supplement the household income.
In 2007, 25.9 percent of wives were earning more than their husbands in households where both spouses work, according to the most recent data available from the Bureau of Labor Statistics. That’s up from 17.8 percent two decades earlier. (MSNBC)
In Steve Harvey’s Think Like a Man, Act Like a Lady, he describes men’s three needs in a relationship as the need to provide, protect, and profess. That first one, is probably the most important. Most men won’t even consider being in a committed relationship until they can properly provide for their woman/family. Most women think a relationship is as simple as I like you, you like me, let’s be together, but it’s really not that simple for men. They have a checklist of things that must be crossed off in their life list before they can add someone to it. And quite honestly, that’s commendable.
Some couples can handle it, and some can’t. The key is to figure out which one you are.
What do you think? Can men handle a relationship where the woman is the breadwinner?
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Here’s what you said:
JH: “Um, been there, done that & may do it again. I say, ‘Thanks very much,’ and hope she doesn’t realize there are better-looking guys than me all over the place.”
What NOT to do if you’re the female breadwinner:
- Brag, gloat about bringing home the bacon
- Make financial decisions without your spouse
- Tell your friends you make more money than him, that’s house business
- Try to “help” him find a better job working for your parents, friends, ex, etc.
- Bring it up in fights
- Discredit his contributions to the relationship
- Make jokes about “wearing the pants”
Also read: Women proposing to men.
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