One of my faithful readers asked a question that caused a great deal of discussion when I interviewed others to get a idea on how men and women view infidelity. Kevin of Los Angeles asked, “Can people be pushed into cheating”? I had my own answer but then I decided to interview 20 adults ranging from the ages of 18 to 50 to get their opinion. I interviewed 10 women and 10 men just to make things even. Out of the 20, 15 said yes, they do believe that a person can be pushed into cheating. 10 of the 15 were men and the other 5 were women. This was shocking to me. I say this because I would have assumed that more people would have said NO, people cheat because they choose to do so. In this article I will examine the original question of whether or not people can be pushed to cheat and I will also take a look at some of the reasons people may feel they were pushed into someone else’s arms.
When looking at the act of cheating most would agree that it is the epitome of selfish behavior. I have had people tell me “she kept accusing me so I went on and did it”, or “if I got to do the time I might as well do the crime”. I can see how being constantly accused of wrong doing could be irritating and cause a great deal of stress, but I believe if your mate accuses you that much then you should probably be thinking of ending the relationship. Adults cannot use the cause and effect line of thinking, and those who do most likely have many problems in their lives. As a grown-up you must take responsibility for your own actions.
Remember only you can control yourself, what others do may cause stress and pain but no one can MAKE you do anything. I believe people who say they were pushed into cheating may have had some issues in their relationship but probably did not want to make a tough decision. So instead of making things right with their mate they wanted to mentally escape with someone else. The problem with this line of thinking is that you are jumping out of the skillet into the fire.
Now as to why many believe people can be pushed to cheating we must look into the times in which we live. I know my little survey was not very extensive but it may prove a point. People today oftentimes blame others for their own short-comings. It is human inclination to do what appears easiest and most times wrong, remember the heart is treacherous and it wants what it wants. Adults should have the right heart condition and a clear focus on what is right and wrong and if wrong is what YOU choose to do then you only have yourself to blame when the pain comes, and believe me it will come back around. Just a thought.