Hopefully you have asked yourself this question at least once in your lifetime.
So many of my clients come to coaching sessions with frustration and confusion about what they want from their life, especially their careers. Some clients are disappointed in the career paths they chose. Some clients are looking for a new career and have no idea what to do first. Some clients like the company in which they work, but have relationship issues with their boss and/or teammates. Some clients just feel its time for a change.
I ask all of my clients the same question at our initial meeting: Are you an interesting person?
You would be surprised at the responses I hear. Basically the reply is either “No, I’m just an average person” or “I think so, I guess I am interesting”. It is rare that I hear “Yes, I am interesting”.
These clients are coming to a career coaching/counseling session to explore career options and they either think they are not interesting or are not sure if they are interesting? What is the possibility they will land the career of their dreams with that perception of themselves? – Not too good.
If this sounds a little like you – then a perspective shift is a very important first step to finding the career you want and deserve. Stop thinking about the things you have not done or the things you cannot do and start thinking about all the things you have done and all the things you can do. In fact, make a list of every single thing you have done in your lifetime – personally and professionally. You will begin to realize as you review your list just how interesting you are. You will find that you have admirable and interesting stories to tell, many experiences to share and tremendous skills and knowledge to bring to your next job.
I think it is fair to say that many job seekers focus on TGW (things gone wrong) in their careers, things they should have done and their career challenges and disappointments. Now, here’s something interesting to think about: What if you were already who you are supposed to be, doing exactly what you are supposed do, at this exact place and moment in time?
What if you focus your thoughts and energy on where you are right now? What if you focus solely on what you have learned about yourself and life up to and including this exact moment in time? This focus is much more empowering and interesting.
You own your journey and experiences – the wins, the losses, the highs, the lows, your challenges and your strengths is what makes you the most interesting creatures on earth. Each of you is a fascinating human being. Each of you has a unique and interesting career path and unique contribution to the industry in which you are seeking employment. You are interesting and exactly where you are supposed to be at this moment in time – what’s next?
NEXT STEP: Clarify your mission and vision statement for your life. Your first strength is confidence and confidence is a natural component to self expression. You need to express those things that are unique and interesting to you. Your talents can be explored and expanded in this space of confidence and
self-expression. Who are you? What do you want from this one life? How will you get it?