What do you do when your child throws a fit in a public place? What should you do when your one year old throws a toy at another child? What do you do when your little one stuffs a foreign object in the dvd player?
A huge step in parenting is discipline, and understanding it with your child. The best thing to remember when dealing with disciplining your child is to always be consistent. Regardless of what is being said by the child. Be consistent. If the parent doesn’t stick to the rules, then 9 out of 10 times the child won’t either. Consistency is a very important step in discipline. The more you as the parent follows through, the more the child behaves, and knows his or her boundaries.
Babies and toddlers are naturally curious. So it’s wise to eliminate temptations and no-nos — items such as TVs and video equipment, stereos, jewelry, and especially cleaning supplies and medications should be kept well out of reach.
When your crawling baby or roving toddler heads toward an unacceptable or dangerous play object, calmly say “No” and either remove your child from the area or distract him or her with an appropriate activity.
Timeouts can be effective discipline for toddlers. A child who has been hitting, biting, or throwing food, for example, should be told why the behavior is unacceptable and taken to a designated timeout area — a kitchen chair or bottom stair — for a minute or two to calm down (longer timeouts are not effective for toddlers).
It’s important to not spank, hit, or slap a child of any age. Babies and toddlers are especially unlikely to be able to make any connection between their behavior and physical punishment. They will only feel the pain of the hit.
And don’t forget that kids learn by watching adults, particularly their parents. Make sure your behavior is role-model material. You’ll make a much stronger impression by putting your own belongings away rather than just issuing orders to your child to pick up toys while your stuff is left strewn around.
As your child grows and begins to understand the connection between actions and consequences, make sure you start communicating the rules of your family’s home.
Spanking literally solves nothing, except repeated behavior.
Perhaps no form of discipline is more controversial than spanking. Here are some reasons why experts discourage spanking:
- Spanking teaches kids that it’s OK to hit when they’re angry.
- Spanking can physically harm children.
- Rather than teaching kids how to change their behavior, spanking makes them fearful of their parents and merely teaches them to avoid getting caught.
For kids seeking attention by acting out, spanking may inadvertently “reward” them — negative attention is better than no attention at all. It’s very important to encourage postive behavior before confusion that will turn into negative behavior.
As a parent you have to be stern in what you want your child to understand. Being the parent is the main step in raising a healthy child.