Domestic violence is at times a series of piercing screams or sometimes it is an isolated but continuous nervous sobbing whimper, that is only heard by the victim, cowering in an unlit corner, unsafe, unloved and deathly afraid. This terrifying experience is reenacted Every 9 seconds in the U.S. when a woman is assaulted or beaten by her husband, boyfriend or domestic partner.
October is Domestic Violence month in America, yet in the United States, domestic violence is an unrelenting 12 month nightmare for a woman victim, and for her children. Children are the victims on two levels, because, according to a variety of studies, over 10 million children witness their mothers being, beaten, thrown around, assaulted repeatedly every year, and these same children are physiologically traumatized and become emotionally scarred as well.
It does not matter whether or not you are located in Cleveland, Chicago, Memphis, New Orleans, Houston, New York, Detroit, or a small town, domestic violence is a crime, that is deadly, it is violent and it breeds like wildfire because even children, who have witnessed violent domestic violence end up as both perpetrators and future victims.
This unfortunately is an inconvenient truth that must be ended, and every person that knows about this type of dangerous assaultive behavior can do something about it now, and not later, when it may be too late.
Think about this scenario for a moment. Would you purposely shove your sister, daughter, niece, grandmother or wife into oncoming traffic? Most reasonable people would say, “Absolutely not!” Yet, when you allow a loved one to be continuously victimized by her husband or boyfriend, you “purposely”, yes purposely allowed her to be part of the category of women who suffer more injuries from domestic violence than from car accidents, rapes and muggings combined!, according to the Domestic Violence Statistics website.
Not convinced? Then maybe you are one of the truly uncaring ,openly insensitive creations of humanity that are more settled on your own mental comfort or convenience than caring about the life, yes the life of your sister, mother or even possibly your small child’s future life. Does that begin to juggle your conscience, knowing that her possible safety, her security… her life may be in your hands?
Each year there is a flurry of activity that begins when October’s Domestic Violence Month starts. Since 1981, when it was launched as a “Day Of Unity” by the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, until it was officially observed in 1987 as Domestic Violence Month was observed, batterers have continued, victimization of young teens, women and children has continued, and far too many women as well as men have stood by, saying to themselves as well as to others, “it’s not my business, because that’s personal.”
It is about time we call it for what it is. It is cowardly position to be in, and for men, it is especially unmanly! Men who can have influence on men who batter, but rather chose to turn their head away and ignore the battering and abuse, are acting like little boys who are afraid that they won’t be liked by their men’s club, and that they will be tossed out of the official men’s tree house.
Men, don’t climb into a tree house that was built on top of a women’s pain, a young female teen’s suffering and held together by the frightening images that will be played out for a lifetime in the minds of young children. Instead tear down that tree house and build a house, a life and future that are respectful, are caring and are non-violent.
This is an opportunity to not just take back the day, the month or the year to prevent domestic violence, but take back the future violence before it even has an opportunity to be seeded, nurtured and grow.
Domestic Violence in small towns and large cities begins in a home and it can be ended in a home, a community and a nation, if we decide our young infant daughters and infant sons deserve a chance to live in a nation free from the fear and for far too many, death that can result from it.
Pledge to protect their future now!
For more information on domestic violence and abuse go to the Help Guide website:http://helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm
In Ohio – Ohio Domestic Violence Network: http://www.odvn.org/