Continued from Part I.
Once upon a time, there was a little girl brushing her perfectly-dressed-in-pink-poof plastic doll’s hair. That was you. You daydreamed about a prince slaying a dragon by sword to save you and live happily ever after.
“Dragons are not real,” mom said. “Princes don’t walk around with swords anymore.” And sadness came over your fragile heart.
School deepened the wound when your teacher said you live in a democracy, not a monarchy! There are no princes here. The mini damsel-in-distress cried, “What should I do now?!”
Wake-up kid, you were lied to. Fast forward to how la-la-land affects you:
Prince Charming did! If he doesn’t take you to fancy restaurants, if he argues, if he doesn’t buy a valentine’s day gift, if he didn’t ask you out first, if he doesn’t meet the saying “I love you” quota, if he doesn’t propose within a year…he doesn’t love you. These rules are exhausting! The only one who knows if he loves you is him. Typically, he’ll show it in his own way. Is he always holding and hugging you? Does he drop everything to help you in a bind? Does he send you messages sharing his day with you? Just because riding into the sunset isn’t his style, doesn’t mean he isn’t in love. Pay attention to how he shows you his feelings. Instead of demanding what love should look like, enjoy what you have.
He’s there to save you. “I want someone reliable who can be my rock when things get rough,” you say. Does your partner think differently? No, he wants you to be strong and able to step up sometimes. When you’re always the follower, he doesn’t see your true potential as an equal partner he can secure a future with. Don’t worry about who is calling who. Don’t study the relationship down to its atomic structure. Step up when you need to and observe his actions when you need him. Save each other.
Find your campus and check out their resources geared toward building a healthy relationship!
Southern Methodist University
Memorial Health Center Counseling Services
6211 Bishop Boulevard
Texas Christian University
Brown-Lupton Health Center Counseling Services
Individual, Couples and Group Counseling;
Exploring Healthy Relationships Outreach Program, and
Communication and Assertiveness Outreach Program
West Entrance, View Map
University of North Texas
Counseling and Testing Services
Individual Counseling and Themed Group Psychotherapy,
Educational Presentation on Dating and Relationship Issues,
Assertiveness Training and Conflict Management
Chestnut Hall, Suite 311, Denton Campus
Dallas Baptist University
Student Counseling Center
Collins Learning Center, First Floor