In the beginning everything is going great. The two of you talk about everything for hours. You miss each other the very second the other leaves. When this period is over a multitude of things contribute to relationships to expire. In this article I will explain four reasons relationships fail and what you can do to prevent these things from happening.
The more time that is spent with your partner you’ll learn their good and bad qualities. Often couples find themselves complaining about the others annoying habits. They’ve forgotten how they communicated in the beginning. The couple has begun to focus on the negative instead of the positive that first attracted them to each other. In the beginning of a relationship each person should write a letter to the other, but don’t exchange the letters. This letter should be composed of the things you like or love about each other. When tough times arrive the letter serves as a reminder. Often as relationships grow each person forgets how it began. You should set aside a few hours every week were the two of you talk and listen to each other about common interest and try to learn new things about each other.
In order to avoid conflict on or both parties make excuses for the other’s negative behavior instead of facing the problems in the relationship. This can cause a bad break up that can leave resentment. Denial comes from the couple simply avoiding racing reality. There could be incompatibility or trust issues but in order to put on the face of a perfection the couple dances around their issues making for an unhealthy relationship. When there is a problem face it head on together even if it means a separation is the answer. Not doing this will only lead to negative behavior that may cause more heartache at the end.
When you’re in a relationship there no longer just and I. Some people forget this or don’t care about this. If your only concern is I want or I need you may be driving you partner away. If you began to ignore their needs you will leave them no choice but to not be concerned with yours. Making each other happy as well fulfilling you own needs should be the goal. This means learning to listen and forgive. If your needs change you have to be vocal about that cheating or ignorance is not the answer. All relationships go through growing pains it up to the couple to display maturity and a willingness to work through it.
4. Different Directions
Often couples don’t discuss their future together; thinking that they will scare the other off. However, doing this will only lead to conflict later. You have to be honest with yourself and your partner about what your relationship goals are. When this isn’t done the couple grows apart because they don’t want the same things. They become unhappy with one another. These can be very tough situations and most times a compromise can’t be reached. Both parties need to feel and share the same values. In this area silence is not golden!
Relationships are work don’t wait until your talking about marriage to began the work. Each day you’re together you should be learning and enjoying one another even during the bad times.