Any parent of young children would be the first to ask questions regarding this topic. Every where you go, you always find children throwing tantrums of frustration to their parents. Tantrums don’t really have a specific time. They come out whenever and wherever. It can happen at restaurants, schools, cars, parking lots, libraries, and many more places. Often when this occurs, parents struggle to make their child stop, and often can lead to frustrations from both parties. What parents need to understand in these scenarios is that children usually have a reason or a cause for the tantrums and parents need to have skills in dealing with these situations.
Often children throw tantrums because their needs might not have been met, out of frustration, or just simply from stress. Many parents laugh at the fact that their children go through stress at such a young age, but studies show that children get stressed more often than parents in certain circumstances. Constantly hearing of “NO” from parents or “STOP,” “CAN’T,” “DON’t,” builds up frustration in children, and can be seen in their tantrums. It’s a way for children to express their emotions and feelings as a cry of “hear me out.”
Preschool children will listen if you reason with them to meet their needs. Most tantrums occur because the child wants something that they can’t have or they can’t do at the time. Instead of telling the child they can’t have it or they can’t do it, reason with them by providing a substitute option. For instance, if a child wants a toy from a toy store, he already has, instead of saying he can’t have it, try to make them understand that they already have the item at home and to choose a different option. Lay some options for the child to make him/her believe that they are given the options to make the choice on their OWN. These factors will help the child throw less tantrums because he/she will feel that they have some control and power over choices.