Communication is very important in making a relationship last. Our words can either build a person or break a person. In order to make a relationship last we must move beyond our upbringing, we must be able to listen, and we must be able to seize the moment.
As someone who grew up in a single parent household sometimes it is difficult for me to tap into my submissive side. I simply didn’t grow up in a household where upon my father entering the room my mom removed his coat. There are no memories of this man being the head of the household and driving his family to a vacation spot in the family van. I do remember my mother raking leaves and being on the lawn mower herself as a strong, independent, single mother. As an adult now I’m just learning to move beyond my upbringing. As a child who was product of divorce I didn’t always believe optimistically as it pertains to my future. As someone who knew what infidelity was at 3 I am aware completely of what the word means, but I also believe that things can and will be different for me. For this reason I challenge someone to be dependent on someone today and do something totally out of their character. My first challenge in being dependent on someone was a simple thing. I allowed the bagger to take me to my car. For years I instantly said I will do it myself. However, I realize now that after a long day of work there is nothing wrong with someone assisting you not to mention that they get paid for doing it. Yesterday I read that love is interdependent. Nobody can do everything by themselves.
In order to make a relationship last we must be willing to listen. This too is a challenge for me. Yesterday there was a gorgeous, employed, dark and handsome man in my department. He works with retirement for State of Florida employees. He started talking and I realize now that I was very brash with him. My personality is extremely dominant as it pertains to female and male relations topics. He started talking about how he was going to have a conference for black women. He was stating how too often he talks to women, specifically black women who have lost hope in love. I told him that I feel as if there are enough conferences pertaining to black women and the virtuous woman. I told him there need to be more conferences about men and what they need to be doing. While I stand by my opinions and beliefs I do realize now that I was wrong by constantly interjecting and not letting him make his point. In a relationship you must be able to listen. We must not always assume that our answer is the correct answer.
The final key in moving towards your destiny is being able to seize the moment. Have you met those wonderful individuals only to say years later that should have been my husband or wife? The only thing that didn’t cause the situation to manifest is our own procrastination. Sometimes we have so much baggage from the past that we lack the ability to pursue someone. Sometimes we realize things later after we have matured. The challenge for today is to let all baggage from the past go. If you someone pursues you who is worthy of your time and effort then seize the opportunity.