Uncovering our inner selves with our spouse is part of what God had in mind for married couples from the very beginning. (Genesis 2:25) This goes for both men and women. Women are generally more comfortable with this because societal standards and morays have made it easier. While men generally have a harder time with this, it has started to change in recent years. However, it’s not always men who have a difficult time unlocking and sharing their innermost selves. So what does, ‘they were naked and felt no shame’ mean? Let’s examine that.
The literal meaning is obvious – we are to be unashamed of our naked bodies in front of each other. Easier said than done, right, especially for women? In a society such as America, we’re bombarded with what a physically attractive person is via the media, much to our dismay. It’s tragic that the media has taken this too far. But even more tragic is people allowing themselves to be impressionable by the media. People need to take charge of their lives, moreover, let God take charge. Everyone is a unique creation of God, and you have to see that for yourself.
On the flip side, it doesn’t mean we should let ourselves go and not take care of this vehicle He gave our souls. (1 Corinthians 6:19, 1 Timothy 4:8). The Bible is clear that physical attractiveness has some importance too. (Song of Solomon, et al) Learning to appreciate our partners’ bodies is of utmost importance in maintaining, and even elevating, a sexually, emotionally, mentally and spiritually intimate relationship with our spouse. Generally speaking, the sexual aspect of the relationship unlocks a man’s ability to become intimate in other ways, like the mental and emotional aspects. For a woman, the opposite is generally true – she usually needs mental and emotional stimulation before her inhibitions and desire in the sexual arena are unlocked. But let’s go beyond that.
Letting our guard down and inviting our counterpart to see us in our entirety, with no restrictions or walls, in a deeply spiritual, mental and emotional sense is the key to achieving the apex of love, intimacy and passion in our marriages. To do this you first have to establish a close relationship with God. How do you do this? By studying His Word and letting Him speak to you, allowing Him to be Lord of your life, through prayer and fellowshipping with others.
Next you have to face yourself in your entirety. That’s right, you have to get in touch with all of you – your unresolved pain, fears, what drives you, who you really are now, who God made you to become (the part of you God would like to see you grow into), your dreams and the part of you who might have become disillusioned by your past experiences.
Then, move in the direction of the vision of this awesome relationship you’ve dreamt about. As for you, come to visualize the person God created you to be in a great relationship, whether you’re single or married already. Allow God to transform you. As for your mate, if you’re single, visualize the one God’s had in store for you all along – your dream mate – beyond all the trivial and worldly characteristics the rest of society seems to focus on. Look for Godly characteristics. Then keep your eyes open for this person. If you’re married, pray that your spouse have the same ambitions and commitment! Also, keep in mind there’s no perfect person out there, save Christ. There are two different people who will need to reach common ground in certain areas in order to become one flesh. Conversely, He never instructed us to settle either.
The good Lord has incredibly wonderful things in store for those that love and follow Him, especially in our relationships/marriages! (Jeremiah 29:11) So long as you keep your eyes on Him and His ways, are willing to face your fears, do the work necessary in your self, learn to be comfortable in your own skin and willing to love someone with reckless abandon, you can’t fail. It takes two though. Only then will you be ready for real intimacy with your mate.