Freud was right; our first love affair is with our parents.
Like it or not, the very first time we fall in love…and, we all do…at that point in our lives, we truly cannot help ourselves, we fall in love with our parents.
Yes, or, parent, or person (s) whom we spent our days and nights with from when we hit the planet to when we fly the coop-ish. It’s not a biological dynamic (it can be); it’s a psychological and emotional experience. Love.
And, it’s not summer love, or puppy love, or no love, that happens to us first in our hearts and in our lives.
Love in us grows from the moment we open our eyes on gorgeous, planet Earth from our connection to our moms and our dads.
Every precious little moment of our beginnings as an adorable blob, an infant, then a baby, then a toddler, a child, a teen….each of those moments, days and years, love is developing in us through the relationships and those experiences we each had with our parents and siblings.
In the horoscope, siblings are represented in the third house, ruled by Gemini, by sign, and Mercury, by planet.
What about sex?
Sex sort of loses its allure, doesn’t it?! Carry on to the next octave…it gets better! Our adult intimate relationships are the higher octave of those parental relationships, literally, for better or for worse!
Power in a marriage determines Sun sign of offspring
Power in a marriage shifts from time to time between partners for various reasons. That’s why we can have a brood of both masculine and feminine Sun signs. Power shifts; or, sometimes, it doesn’t, and all the children are either feminine Sun signs, or masculine Sun signs.
According to the gifted astrologer, Betty Lundsted, power in a marriage is indicated by the partner more in charge emotionally, materially, physically, and/or mentally at the time of the birth of the child, which then determines the Sun sign of the child.
You are a masculine or feminine Sun sign because of the disposition of power between your mom and dad at the time of your birth. Absentia counts; there were two when it started.
It’s the person who is stronger overall; or, the partner who’s currently winning if there’s a power struggle; or, the partner with the most psychological power.
Fairy tales and horror movies
There’s nothing to overcome in our stories; our upbringing is not to be dissolved, denied, destroyed or a reason to be depressed. It’s just a story. And, it’s over. Or, is it?
In an article titled, Childhood family patterns tend to replicate in our adult relationships, Denver Psychology Examiner, Zoe Zimmermann, writes:
“People in couples counseling and relationship counseling start to realize that the structure of their childhood dynamic seems to be like a magnet that pulls the same dynamic in over and over again.”
Again, Freud was right. Our parental bonds contribute massively to our emotional states as adults, no matter how much therapy, energy work, meditation, or regressions we have done.
Remember, it’s not happening to us. It’s happening for us. And, as amazing astrologer, Leo, Isabel says, “Our will is our life.”
The horoscope’s Midheaven rules the dominant parent
The dominant parent is determined by whether you are a feminine or masculine Sun sign. The mother is the dominant parent for all feminine Sun signs; the father is the dominant parent for all masculine sun signs.
Our personalities tend to be patterned after the dominant parent. We will tend to treat our intimate partners the way our dominant parent treated his or her partner. For example, feminine Sun signs will tend to treat their partners (and other intimate relationships: siblings, children) the way their mom treated their dad.
Note to all parents: your child is falling in love with you.
Libra through Pisces on the Midheaven
In part one, we reviewed Midheaven positions for Aries through Virgo. Here, we’ll explore the other six, Libra through Pisces.
Libra Midheaven: Good Midheaven vibration due to strong leadership in Libra and the attracting power of Venus.
Libra ruling the tenth house indicates that you’re an individual who attracts attention because of your physical appearance, artistic talent, position in society, or simply because you enjoy being in the spotlight.
The influence of Libra on the tenth house is an indication of the need for you to strike a balance between home and family and your career or long-range goals.
Scorpio Midheaven: Water here isn’t the best…makes career matters too murky; very resourceful, though, and determined energy which is helpful.
Scorpio ruling the tenth house is an implication that you are apt to suffer some traumatic event in youth that greatly affects you as an adult. The trauma may have been the death of a parent, or physical or mental abuse by a parent or other family member.
No matter what the reality of your childhood, somewhere along the line you managed to develop the sense of having no control over things. As a result, you have great reluctance to allow anyone else to assume control over your life and destiny. As always, Scorpio, forgive.
Sagittarius Midheaven: Jack-of-all trades and very lucky in career matters (I speak with direct experience…I love my Sag Midheaven; I can take career risks and land on my feet; I’ve learned to literally count on it).
Sagittarius ruling the tenth house indicates the likelihood that you’re an individual who consciously or subconsciously seeks a public forum for exhibiting your intellectual skills, artistic talent, or specialized training. You are apt to feel strongly that what you know must be transmitted to others, which in turn makes many Sagittarius Midheaven people pursue careers as teachers, writers, lecturers, salespersons, actors, politicians or clerics.
It also implies problems with superiors or in attaining promotions or other personal goals. You may, at some time, be put in a situation for which you are not adequately prepared or for which you lack necessary skills.
Capricorn Midheaven: Excellent Midheaven energy for Capricorn naturally rules the 10th house and its affairs.
As a Capricorn Midheaven, it is also possible you will have to bear responsibility for the father. Whatever happens, one of the strongest motivating factors in your life occurs because of the paternal relationship you experienced, or failed to experience. How well you handle it marks your success and maturity as an individual.
Capricorn’s influence suggests individuals with strong career goals, or those who select careers or directions in life that promise security and/or a positions of authority.
You are quite dedicated to pushing yourself or your goals forward, no matter how long it takes or how difficult the struggle. It is well for you to remember that abuse of authority or power you are granted may easily backfire and bring public disgrace.
Aquarius Midheaven: Good for humanitarian efforts; likelihood of dual careers, or change mid-stream.
Those with Aquarius ruling the tenth house are apt to attract public attention. Noteworthy activities that bring you attention are likely to be connected with some impact you make on society, which could include anything from criminal acts to outstanding humanitarian projects you have sponsored.
The influence of Aquarius is also an implication that your career choices or long range goals are related to some unusual or unorthodox area.
Other, more traditional areas that are possible include medicine, research, social organizations, fund raising, international finance, communication or computers.
One of the parents, probably the father may be unorthodox in some way, or they may experience a sudden or unexpected separation from this parent.
Pisces Midheaven: Not the strongest Midheaven position, not just because of the water, but due to the withdrawal and passivity vibration associated with Pisces. Creative energy will be strong, but, otherwise, look for career strengths elsewhere in the chart – 6th house, or Saturn.
Pisces ruling the tenth house indicates that you’re an individual who may face the necessity of guarding your reputation since there is danger of scandal or being connected with someone else’s disgrace.
Religion, theater, dance, film, art, medicine, or maritime industries are other possible areas that hold the key to your destiny.
The only thing we can change is our mind, thank God
Learning to harness our energies and marshal them for our good and the good of all is our divine obligation. But, what an exquisite and rewarding endeavor to be entrusted with! Yes, it’s hard at times, confusing and frustrating.
During a period of great inner turmoil and angst, a young (18, to be exact) Piscean friend of mine complained, “I feel like God is f…’ing with me!”
“Yes! But it’s God! What is there to fear?! And, isn’t it better than being ignored?” Replied my Leo Moon!
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