I do not think I have ever run into this issue here in Wichita Falls. Nor, do I think this would work in Wichita Falls. This town is small enough to say most everyone knows everyone, so cheating would be the dumbest thing to do. But unfortunately for some not having a sex filled marriage is a deal breaker.
Even here in Wichita Falls some will try to fill that void or desire at the cost of someone else’s expense. Did you know that if someone has some sort of sexual dysfunction that some sex therapist will refer you to a surrogate sex partner to practice with? You do have to be single for this therapy.
I hope the therapist is ready for that emotional fall out in that relationship. My point is if one spouse is having trouble performing and cheating is out of the question; the spouse with the issue could be sued. No hang on a minute, I would really research that before you try that here in Wichita Fall or anywhere in Texas for that matter.
But, here is a story I read when researching this issue. The writers name is Brian Alexander, “It sounds like the opening line of a joke: French wife sues her ex-husband over his refusal to, uh, perform during their marriage. But the widely publicized lack of passion lawsuit raises the question: How much is marital sex worth?”
“The 51-year-old ex-husband was ordered to pay the equivalent of about $15,000 by a judge in Nice, southern France, for not getting busy in the bedroom with his 47-year-old spouse for the 21 years of their marriage, according to the British paper The Telegraph. However, suing a spouse, or an ex-spouse, for monetary damages is rare, and success rarer still.
In 2004, a Spanish man tried it when his wife shut him out for five days and a judge tossed the case.” “In the U.S. denial of sex is not usually spelled out in divorce codes, though “mental cruelty” fits the bill. Oklahoma has a provision for “gross neglect of duty.” In some states, plaintiffs can charge the defendant spouse with “impotence” and collect settlements.
Other states specify that the impotence had to have been present before the marriage, a provision that harkens back to the days when people pretended not to have had sex before the wedding day. More often, third parties are sued for causing “loss of consortium.”
That does not always mean just sex, it could mean hubby can no longer mow the lawn, but generally that’s just a nice way of saying a spouse longer performs up to par, or at all. In New York State, a wife sued a local town after her husband shattered his elbow tripping on a damaged sidewalk. She won $85,000 for loss of consortium, which sort of makes you wonder just how integral his elbow was to their “consortium.”
“And, of course, there is the old “alienation of affection” lawsuit against a third party, such as a mistress. If a husband or wife stops having sex with the spouse because he or she is all worn out from lunchtime at the Motel 6, the spouse might collect loss of consortium damages from the paramour.” So my question to my readers is, what do you do in this situation?
It seems that even if you have a medical condition you might be guilty by default. Sometimes Wichita Falls seems so much more normal than other places. What I do not get is that it is not always important enough to put on the “to do” list but it is important enough to sue over later in the marriage. That’s why men are so confused.