Thirty seven percent of college graduates are now men, while 63 percent are now women. I for one applaud the progress women have made. Meanwhile, the average guy in his twenties spends 4 hours a day on video games. So laziness and evading responsibility are marking more and more of the male species. Why?
Hugh Heffner and his ilk have done very well encouraging males to be playboys. But what is much worse is that many churches also encourage males to be irresponsible, and to treat females as playthings. They are seen as objects to be discarded when they are no longer as entertaining to the males. A Presbyterian minister friend of mine dumped his wife and children for a younger model. I met the ex wife and the new wife, and from a human point of view, of course he made the best choice! He was evangelical and a very respected leader in that country. But he gave up his principles for pleasure- well, actually he elevated the principle of pleasure above faithfulness and keeping vows, and taking the point of view God has, when he says clearly and rather bluntly that he hates divorce.
Men in history who considered themselves to be historic Christians have taken the responsibility to confront evil- not to coddle it in themselves or in others. They have seen the importance of being faithful to spouses and children, working hard, and providing safety and security for their family when at all possible. I know nurture is also very important, and women generally do that much better than the males. Balance is needed, or the nurture goes to the one who sins against himself and others and society. Men historically protected their children from society, and society from their sons or daughters when they wanted to do selfish harm to that society.
Pat Robertson, the head of the 700 club(named for 700 who raised a large amount of cash to get the organization going), recently advised a caller to divorce his wife who has altzheimers in order to date someone else. When the co host commented that Christians marry until death, he replied that she has a form of death. Well, loss of beauty or loss of money, or other health issues, ad nauseum, could be used as an excuse for divorce with his reasoning. Thankfully, most pagans are more kind and faithful to their spouse than what he advocates being. So even within evangelical Christian circles, males are encouraged to be playboys instead of men who fulfill their obligations.
On the other hand, the president of a Christian college in Columbia, South Carolina, discovered that his wife was suffering from the same disease. He wrote a letter of resignation in order to spend time with her. He said he loved her, and he saw it as an honor and a privilege to take care of her. She sensed his love and was more peaceful when he was with her. He is a man of principles- Godly principles, and a worthy example for us all. May God deliver us from “Christian” or pagan playboys, who use women as objects and abandon them when they can find more pleasure elsewhere. And may God help us to have children of both genders who honor and prefer people of Godly principles, who neither use others nor let themselves be used in selfish and silly ways.