As Christians who are raising our children in the ways of the Lord, we must realize that it’s our godly character that is the difference between how the world operates in the family and how Christians operate. God took you and your spouse, a man and woman of God and birthed a child. He wants you to raise your children according to his Word. God expects us to continue in godliness, being one with Christ; and in this we must reflect who God is in our daily lives, marriages and families. In the past we have mistakenly ran to the world for parenting advice. Now as we run to the word we must erase the residue (hidden in our hearts) of the world’s way of parenting. Here are tips parents can use to fight against the spirit of rebellion in children.
Develop your godly character
Your tools for raising a godly seed are the godly character you’ve developed and continue to cultivate. The fruit of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance Galatians 5:22. It is important that we judge ourselves according to this Word in everything that we do. Your godly character is what’s makes you resemble the Father. It reflects your relationship with God. You can’t raise a godly seed without a relationship with God. God designed everything to produce after its kind (Genesis 1:24-26). The fruit of the spirit is your weapon against the devil (2 Corinthians 10:4).
Operating outside of the fruit of the spirit can cause your children to rebel. Contrary to how we were raised yelling is not a tool that promotes Christian morals or fruit. We can’t yell at our spouse, our neighbor or our boss but yet so many Christians use yelling as a way to get their point across to their children. Yelling is actually a way the enemy comes to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10). Yelling is unmannerly (lack of temperance) and it’s not of God. It adds to the problem whether you can see it right now or not. Yelling is a seed of rebellion you don’t want to harvest. Exercising your fruit of love will cause a change in your family. But you must be sincere and consistent.
Do not wear your emotions on your sleeve.
It can be damaging to your children to know that they’ve disappointed you for the tenth time today. When people are overly sensitive they sometimes have the tendency to shift the blame on others unknowing or unaware. A bad report card shouldn’t hurt your feelings or make you become enraged. We should deal with our hurts and pains in the presence of God and allow him to heal us before we tell our children how they’ve disappointed us, hurt our feeling or caused us any kind of misfortune. There may be an unresolved care on the inside of you, this can cause your children to rebel and to carry a harden heart if you don’t deal with the problem now (1 Peter 5:7).
It’s necessary to transform our thinking to agree with God and make the necessary changes that will produce different results in our families. We should take an honest look at how we have raised our children and acknowledge our errors with repentance. It may not be easy to humble yourself with change while there’s rebellion in your home but if you continue to grow in the fruit of the spirit and exercise love daily your family will be a great testimony to all you encounter in the earth.
Prayer of salvation
Make Jesus Christ your Lord and Savior Romans 10:9
Heavenly Father, I come to you with a heart of repentance. Please forgive me of all of my sins, transgressions and iniquities and make me new. God, you said in your Word that if I confess out of my mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in my heart that You raised him from the dead then I will be saved. God, I take you at your Word. I confess out of my mouth and believe in my heart that Jesus is Lord and that You raised him from the dead. Thank you for loving me, living in my heart and for giving me a new spirit.
In Jesus name, Amen