Awareness is the first step in improving our self-esteem, as we often repeatedly think about ourselves in ways that can be damaging. These thoughts may be so frequent that it is as if they are already programmed into our minds. Paying attention to our own thoughts and listening to what we say to ourselves is the best way to start with self-love.
For self-love it is important to offer ourselves compassion. So for a minute, let’s pretend that we are a stranger. How might we speak to ourselves differently if we were addressing someone else instead of ourselves? So that is where we can begin to work with our self-talk.
How we treat ourselves is another crucial part of this formula. How much time do you give to yourself? Are you constantly doing for others or spending your free time focused on endless distractions? Do you invest in yourself through schooling, learning, reading, eating healthy, exercising? Realize that little by little you are building within yourself the beautiful present life that you have always wanted.
How we allow others to treat us is also an important part of this. Do you ever speak up if something someone has said or done is bothering you? Do you allow yourself to feel as you do about something or do you try to ignore it and go on in spite of the fact that the same feeling keeps on repeating itself?
Remember to, be patient as it took many years for you to get to where you are now, so it will take some time to replace some of your old habits with this new more compassionate, patient, and loving approach.
Finally, part of being successful at self-love is being able to accept love that is being offered by those around us. Love arrives in may forms and packages. We can either decide to receive it gracefully or look for it elsewhere.
Six ways we can improve our self-love
Ultimately, we are the ones that are best suited to provide for our needs by spending time with ourselves away from endless distractions, listening to what our heart is calling for, and then surrounding ourselves with an environment that is most conducive to this. In the end, it is up to us to firstly provide ourselves with compassion and then be willing to receive the love that is already there.