Stressed in a relationship? Take a look at society today and how the media plays into the portrayal of relationships.
Hollywood has programed this society to be robotic in relationship; feeling are not discussed; hurts are being numbed; intimacy in romantic relationships have been seized by pornography; shutting men off from what is real and good in a male/female relationship.
Once a man and woman enter into a loving relationship there are unspoken expectations that in the past were accepted and appreciated. The relationship after a period of dating becomes “romantic”.
Romance is what makes the world go round. Humans were created to be in relationships; to love someone and that love being reciprocated.
Loving relationships should begin with a friendship. A time of getting to know each other “outside” the bedroom sheets is key to a lasting romantic, respectful relationships. Some are of the mindset that “sleeping” together doesn’t have any effect on the couples respect or interaction. This is a grave misconception.
Men have the biological makeup to pursue and initiate in the relationship. When this is interrupted either by a dysfunction upbringing or pornography, the dating and courtship patterns of pursuing a woman for a loving relationship is exchanged for a selfish lustful craving for sex. Woman feel used and abused, and are seen as an object rather and a person. This becomes extremely destructive in all relationships for men and women.
Confusion, dysfunction, intimidation, timidity and withdrawal happens to men and women when any of these patterns of perusal are interrupted, thus creating great stressors in the relationship.
What is the answer? Why not try friendship first, which is old fashion courtship. Cease from looking for someone to just have sex with after the first few dates. Once a couple end up in bed together, it hinders their ability to explore the character of the one they have chosen to date; this is true for men and women.
The answer is Friendship without benefits. If it is true love it will last.
Many things will be discovered after 6 months of dating without sex. Eyes will be wide open to the red flags that suddenly crop up, which may not be seen, or brushed aside due to the physical pull on your emotions from becoming sexual.
Something to think about…