For some reason there has been a growing trend of women being more upfront about sex. This includes discussing sex, sexting, sending sexually explicit photos, cyber sex, and much more and this is before they even meet the guy. If the woman wanted the guy to think she was up for sex with him then there would be no problem. But the truth is women become offended and confused when the man tries to get them into the bedroom during their first encounter. What women (and some men) need to understand is that if you talk about sex the other person will think you want to have sex.
Sex is a part of relationships, it is a part of dating, but in today’s time sex can be just sex with no dating or relationship. Which leads us to a story of a cautionary tale to remind woman why they need to be careful about how intimate they get with a man before understanding their intentions. A recently divorced young man joined and searched various dating sites to find women to help him get over his ex-wife. As he told his friends about his new online adventures he clearly stated to his friends he was not looking for a relationship, he was looking to hook-up with a girl and that was it. He messaged this girl and after a few exchanged messages the topic changed to sex. She started telling him what she would do to him, and he loved every minute of it. He was even given a sexually explicit photo. The catch was she told him she wanted a relationship. Yet he was still under the impression that she was ready to have sex the first time they met. All this was due to her actions. No matter how often she assured him she wanted something serious her sexy words and photos made him view her as a sex object. The story ends with them meeting, and he cared for her enough to not use her and broke it off because he was not looking for a relationship. But with the next girl he was not as kind.
That story happens more often then not, and sadly the outcome is usually the girl gets used. There is nothing wrong about expressing your sexuality but you need to understand the implications it may have. You may think you are coming off as flirtatious, sexy and pleasing but the other person may take it as “they want to have sex with me now”. This does not mean you need to stop expressing your sexuality, but it means you need to understand the message you are sending to the other person. If you are okay with that message then go for it, but if you keep doing the same actions and you want a different outcome it is time for a change. If you are looking for change keep this in mind: less is more until you know the person you are talking to and their true intentions.