Whether you choose to believe it or not, there is a difference between minor bumps in the road and blocks that really steer you off course. Bumps appear and alter pure bliss while blocks result in the end of the road. With those speed bumps that do arise, don’t push them to the side. Down the road those averted issues will only result in greater heartbreak.
How to approach a Speed Bump:
Approach the situation head on. Express your feelings and be open with your partner. Settling on a compromise will not solve anything. It is your duty to point out what your partner may overlook. Although he or she may choose selective hearing – it’s valuable to admit that sometimes your significant other is more observant of your actions and might be more suited to point out your flaws.
Exchange the RIGHT words:
Speak the truth. Brutal honesty is appreciated, even if initially it serves as a wakeup call. How do Mathematicians solve an equation? They go through each step to develop a solution. Ta-da, this also happens in relationships! You must work through the problems to reach a solution and decide the fate of your relationship. Problem: A girlfriend is excluding her significant other. She never asks him to accompany her to family gatherings or get-togethers with friends. Let’s fix it: He must express his concern. If a couple has been dating for a decent amount of time, it is likely that she assumes he is always welcome. However, he should let her know that just by expressing an invite makes him more at ease with the situation. When you are close to someone, alienation is a bad feeling. Express your want to be more involved in your significant other’s life.
Challenges are NOT a breaking point:
Correct. Unless of course you’ve been living in Pleasantville, challenges reflect normalcy. If the same issues are constantly being resurfaced, however, then it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
Love is NOT a Wrestling Match:
Fighting over individual differences can tear two people apart. There has to be a time when you realize that disparity is revealing the obvious truth: the relationship is doomed. Being afraid of losing that comfort you have with a mate is daunting, but being exposed to daily battles (of who’s right and who’s wrong) can strain a person.
Individuals don’t all seamlessly mesh together and challenges are inevitable (along with those inescapable speed bumps). During a fight, however, remind yourself to not lose sight of who you are.