Have you ever felt like you had to know how to do everything even before you knew it?
Or you felt pressured to get something done right the first time you try it?
Or maybe when you make a mistake, you expect everyone to pounce on you with judgment and ridicule?
Perfectionism is a form of black and white thinking and it can come from unrealistic expectations of how we should behave, or other people respond, or events happen. It’s different from having high standards, because high standards are ultimately based on reasonable, achievable criteria.
Nothing in the world is perfect, unless you consider imperfection the new perfection!
In challenging our need to be right or to look competent all the time, or the expectations of others that we think and act as they believe we should, consider the Power of Oops.
Oops expands black and white thinking, allowing for the gray—or color—between the extremes of right and wrong, perfect and imperfect.
The Power of Oops is the acceptance of our humanity and the right to make mistakes. Oops is the opportunity to learn from our misfires rather than wallow in our wrongness.
Try saying oops the next time you goof, instead of beating yourself up. Mistakes, missteps, and misfires are natural. It’s how you recover, move on, and grow from them that’s important.