Remember the words “I want a man with a slow hand”?
You may have thought that these were just some clever lyrics written for a great song. Well it seems that scientists have finally proven that there are pleasure nerves that exist in our skin and they actually do require somewhat of a ‘slow hand’ to give pleasure signals to the brain. They are called C-tactile fibers and they are only present on the hairy part of your skin and need to be rubbed at a speed of four to five centimeters per second.
A study was done by Swedish, Canadian and Unilever R&D researchers and published in the journal of Nature and Neuroscience that identified these fibers as “system for limbic touch that may underlie emotional, hormonal and affiliative responses to caress-like, skin-to-skin contact between individuals.”
Professor McGlone of Unilever R&D points out that these touch nerves are not responsible for the pleasure experienced from rubbing sexual organs but are activating C-fibers, which are wired into the reward systems in the brain which in turn send a message to release pleasure inducing hormones. One of the key reasons this type of study is significant is that “the study could shed light on the role that physical contact plays in sustaining long-term emotional bonds between humans.”
What I find about this study that is important is that is correlates with my own research and the research of hundreds of other practitioners of Tantra, that touch is not only very important for our emotional health but essential to becoming a really wonderful lover. Touch is really one of the 64 arts of Tantra that can be learned and mastered. For me I feel that touching another person’s body, be it my lover or a client, is one of the most pleasurable and healing things that I can do.
As with any art form, learning how to touch your lover so that she or he will be transported into ecstatic states takes practice. Knowing that the skin has certain nerve fibers that are designed to specifically produce pleasure can make this be even more fun.
The Art of Touch
Begin by first centering your own energy so that you are completely present. You must be in your body and your mind focused on what you are doing and feeling. If you are with someone that is new then it is always nice to ask if you can touch them or tell them that now you are going to touch whatever place on their body that you are.
Always remember that your energy proceeds your actual touch. Your energy comes through your hands and this is what your lover will sense first. Every person will be at a different sensitivity level to your energy. So I suggest that you start with light brush strokes to wake the skin up and check in with your partner to find out what they are feeling. Feedback is good and the more oohs and ahhs you get the better.
In Tantra you are always working with the energy between you and your partner. As your partner becomes more sensitive to energy they will begin to appreciate the subtleties of your touch. Lighter is always better for sensual touch. I always coach people to imagine that their hands are their eyes. Explore your partner’s body with your hands as if you could see with them. Close your eyes and feel the electrical current that runs from your partner’s skin as you touch them to your fingertips. You may not feel this right away as you too must develop your own ability to sense your partner’s energy. But the more you are present when you are touching the more you will be able to feel.
I encourage you to take the time to learn the Art of Touch as it will open up a whole new way that you will not only be able to pleasure your partner but yourself as well.