Think Before Sex Outside of Marriage!
Marriage is about building great memories together as husband and wife in a committed relationship! It is very important that you have an open and honest discussion in regards to what you both want out of marriage before marrying and continue to do so throughout your marriage! Please do not just present what the other one wants to hear! Building a strong foundation upon love and honesty is very important!
If your marriage is not what you want it to be then begin doing something about it! You cannot undo anything that has happened! But you can decide to build a better future together! Life is too short and too precious to spend the majority of it unhappy! There are still many rewarding life lessons you can both learn and share together as a couple! The goal of marriage should be to experience “Oneness!” “…A house divided against itself will fall…” Luke 11.
In this 21st century there is much on the horizon to change marriage as we know it! More than 55% of marriages are resulting in divorce and the statistics are climbing! Here in the Sacramento area and throughout the state of California there is much debate in regards to the right to have same sex marriages… You can choose to marry whomever you like! But this still does not change God’s Design for marriage!
Marriage was not meant to be a sentence! It was designed to be a loving, caring, lasting committed matrimonial bond! You will go through some things but you will commit to do what is best for the marriage! A strong high-quality marriage will weather the storms of life! Each marriage is different! Your marriage will be what you both make it! Now is the time to start working towards building a treasured marriage! You honor The Lord when you honor your marriage vows. Please, “Think Before Sex Outside of Marriage!”
If you have not married; please really take some time to get to know this person you are planning to marry some day! Marriage is about developing trust within the boundaries of a committed relationship! It is important that the two of you share what your principle values are with one another! How do you feel about having children? How many or how few? How will you parent the children you already have? Is your spouse’s input important to you! What is the role of the father? What does it mean to be a mother? How will you as a couple raise your children together? How will you blend the family? Or do you even want children? What about adoption? How do you together handle the finances? Who does what, when and how often? What responsibilities do you share? How will your unresolved issues impact your marriage? Can you learn to trust one another or do you even desire transparency in your marriage? These are just a few of the plethora of things to consider!
If in doubt “wait!” Rushing into a lifetime commitment is not wise when you have strong reservations! If you have been married before take some time and deal with the issues from the last marriage or relationship… Don’t be pressured into marrying someone when you know that you are not ready to make the commitment! After all you want to make sure that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with! Not being upfront about serious issues before marriage is not wise! Marrying someone with a hidden agenda is not wise! At some point it will surface and your issues will become problems! And “all hell will break loose in your marriage! This will impact both of you as well as your children if you have any, future children, your family and friends…
It is important that you have many open and honest discussions in regards to what you both want out of marriage before marrying and continue to do so throughout your marriage! An argument or two is good to give you both a sampling as to how you will resolve conflict! Please do not just present what the other one wants to hear! There are times that you must say what the other might not want to hear! There are many life lessons that you can both learn together in marriage as a couple that is not learned in an uncommitted relationship! Today there are many alternatives to marriage but are the consequences worth it? You could just simply live together! It is important to know that living together is not the same! It really is like “drinking the milk before you buy the cow!” God does not sanction living together… You should really, “Think Before Sex Outside of Marriage!”