After a break-up, you may be feeling a mixture of emotions, from loneliness to anticipation to nervous excitement and a plethora of things in between. It can take a while to get over the prior relationship enough to even consider dating again and taking the risk of getting into another relationship, but in almost every case, the time will come when you’re ready to venture out once again. The following are five tips that you should pay heed to when it comes to dating after a break-up.
Tip #1-Date Casually
There is no need to jump right into another relationship, no matter how out of sorts you are feeling about being alone again. Take this time to meet some new people and just have some fun. You need to take some time to just be casual about your dating life, avoiding all the drama of serious relationships for a while. This is your time to ease gradually back into the dating and relationship world, rather than just jumping in head-first with your eyes closed.
Tip #2-Don’t Talk About Your Ex or Your Break-Up
When you are out on those initial dates, it can be tempting to talk about your break-up or your former relationship because it often still feels like a major part of your life. However, your date has little or no interest in hearing about it. It is actually quite impolite to discuss your ex, so avoid it as much as possible. If something does come up about your prior relationship, keep your comments short and simple. Do not “bash” your ex and do not glorify him or her, either.
Tip #3-About the Rebound
Rebound relationships are ones that are almost always doomed to failure. These relationships are generally initiated with the intention, whether realized or not, to forget about the prior partner and move on before the emotions about the break-up have been properly dealt with. Someone can get very hurt when a rebound relationship ends and it is often the person that you are seeing. This person, being ready for a relationship, may have developed strong feelings for you and will have to go through the pain of breaking up just as you have had to. This is not a trouble that you want to give to anyone else.
Tip #4-Keep a Distance
When you are on those initial dates, put up an invisible barrier between yourself and your date. You don’t need to be cold and aloof, per se, but it is not at all improper to maintain a distance physically from your date. Do not get involved in a sexual relationship when you are just beginning to date again. Not only does is cheapen you as a person, but it also takes the emotions to a level that you really aren’t ready for just yet.
Tip #5-Smile and Give it Another Chance
Sometimes it can be difficult to believe in the possibility of love again, especially after a traumatic break-up. There will, however, be someone out there for you, even though it isn’t the person that you thought it was going to be. While you are on the way back to your normal life, including beginning to date again, put on a smile and keep a positive attitude, ready to give love another chance when it shows up.