Marriage is supposed to be the union of one man and one woman. The two are to become as one. This is the only equation where 1+1=1. Marriage is supposed to be a picture to the world of God’s love and faithfulness. The husband is the leader. His strong nature and masculine qualities compel him to be willing to lay down his life in order to protect and provide for all those under his care. The wife was created to be a perfect help-meet to her husband. Her delicate feminine qualities are the perfect complement to her mate. Her life is found when she willingly follows her husband. Eventually, their love produces beautiful babies who are deeply loved and cherished. Their little boys will learn what it means to be a man, and their little girls will learn what it means to be a woman. If both the husband and wife remain surrendered to the Lord, then the children will grow up with the proper perspective of male and female roles in the home. Eventually, they will in turn model the same to their generation. The world desperately needs to see the example of this kind of marriage.
Marriage is about so much more than just being in love or having sex. It’s a holy covenant in which you are committing your life to. When two people get married at a young age, how can they possibly understand the full weight of what they are promising to do? There is so much joy and excitement when two people begin to make wedding plans. Then, finally, the day arrives when a significant question is asked,
“Do you take this person to be your lawfully wedded (husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health forsaking all others, until death do us part?”
We confidently respond,
“I take you to be my lawfully wedded (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.”
The truth is, in the beginning, we could not possibly fully understand what we are getting ourselves into. The courtship, the wedding day and the honeymoon phase are easy. But two people becoming one is a very difficult and painful process. God will use difficult circumstances to stretch, squeeze and mold us into something unique and holy. Something beautiful. Something we could never achieve on our own.
Pressures and temptations of every sort will inevitably come. Feelings will wax and wane. But the anchor which should hold a marriage together, is the commitment of those initial vows to each other and to God.
Marriages are ending at an alarming rate today. Families who have been in church for the past 15 years or so are being torn apart. In Desoto County, in the past couple of years I have heard of nearly 50 families where the man has walked away from his wife and children for a former girlfriend. An untold number of lives have been forever changed. Divorce is devouring and destroying so many innocent lives. The picture of God’s family has been so distorted. Have you noticed how the children and teenagers are growing increasingly defiant and rebellious to God’s ways? Honestly, can we blame them? So many grown adults have failed them. Corruption and sin can be found in homes, churches, the schools, City Hall, the White House and everywhere in between. Most children no longer have true Godly role models who they can trust and follow. We cannot expect our children to do the right thing if we won’t do the right thing. It’s time for the adults to be humble and repent!
We should consider ourselves very fortunate if we remain married to one person for our entire lives. If you have made to “half-time” in your marriage, surely you can see the value of seeing it through until the end. If you find yourself weary and ready to quit, remember your vow to God. Don’t make excuses for bad behavior. Take personal responsibility. Repent, then start doing the right thing. Remind yourself that in the end it will all be worth it. It’s not about you. It’s about modeling God’s love to the world. It’s also about raising up Godly seed for the next generation until Jesus comes.