Domestic violence is a national worldwide epidemic that affects people from all walks of life.
Domestic Violence is a pattern of controlling behaviors. It can be physical or mental. It is a manipulative method used by the abuser to gain control. The abuser can be either male or female. Abuse can happen to anyone of any color, race or sex as abuse is not prejudice. Abusers come from all walks of life from the rich down to the homeless.
Symptoms of knowing you’re in an abusive relationship according to the Hotline:
Signs of emotion abuse are:
- The abuser shows extreme Jealousy and lack of trust
- The abuser does not want you to have friends or even isolates you from your family
- The abuser tries to control all of the finances
- The abuser threatens to harm your family or your kids if you leave
- The abuser calls you names or humilities you
Signs of physical abuse:
- The abuser damages items of importance to you
- The abuser punches, slaps or kicks you
- The abuser traps you so you can’t leave
- The abuser threatens you with a weapon
- The abuser holds you physically against your will (such as choker holds or pins you down)
If you know someone you believe is being abused:
- Let them know they are in a difficult situation
- Be supportive & non judgmental
- Continue to be supportive weather they stay or leave the relationship
- Encourage them to be active with family and friends
- Develop a safety plan is imperative – See a suggested safety plan
- Remember you cannot rescue them
- Encourage them to talk to someone
If you suspect you may be in an abusive relationship but, you’re unsure take the quiz.
The abuser will not only control you but the abuser will try to blame you.
Just always remember it is not your fault no matter what the abuser says.
If you need to talk to someone please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at:
1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
A few domestic violence resources in Missouri:
- Missouri Coalition against Domestic Violence website
- Hope House Shelter website
- The Kansas City Anti-Violence Project website
- October is domestic violence awareness month
Wear purple show your pride and create awareness
This week’s article came from researching a domestic violence website known as the The Hotline.