Infidelity can quickly lead to violence, since it’s a highly volatile situation where people’s emotions are involved – a point worth noting since this is October, Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
When it comes to infidelity, all three parties involved – the betrayed spouse or significant other, the cheater, and his or her secret lover — are susceptible to, or capable of committing acts of violence.
A significant amount of domestic violence stems either directly or indirectly from infidelity, suspected infidelity, or accusations of infidelity – very similar to what happened between Rihanna and Chris Brown See 12 Ways Infidelity Can Lead to Domestic Violence andRihanna’s Family Want her Back with Chris Brown After Infidelity-Fueled Beating.
PHOTOS: The Chris Brown Incident on Good Morning America, including photos of Rihanna’s face before and after her assault.
Domestic Violence Scenarios in Which Infidelity Plays a Part
Below are 4 common infidelity scenarios in which domestic violence is likely to take place:
- a betrayed husband kills or injures his cheating wife
- a man brutally beats his wife or girlfriend because he suspects her of having an affair.
- a wife or girlfriend who suspects infidelity questions her husband or boyfriend, and the interrogation takes a violent turn.
- a cheating husband comes home drunk and takes his anger and frustration out on his wife.
These are just a few of the situations in which infidelity or suspected infidelity can escalate into domestic violence.
Other common scenarios in which acts of violence stem from infidelity are covered in the article entitled 12 Ways Infidelity Can Lead to Domestic Violence.
Domestic Violence in the African-American Community
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.
As an African-American woman, I would be remiss if I did not share a few statistics on domestic violence in the African-American community.
- According to the US Department Bureau of Justice Statistics, Black females experienced domestic violence at a rate 35 percent higher than that of white females, and about 22 times the rate of women of other races.
- African Americans accounted for almost one-third of the intimate partner homicides in the United States.
- Among African American women killed by their partner, almost half were killed while in the process of leaving the relationship, highlighting the need to take extra precautions at that time.
Domestic Violence is Not a One Time Thing
Studies indicate that if your husband or boyfriend has injured you once, the likelihood is very high that he will physically assault you again.
This is something that victims of domestic violence and their family members sometimes find difficult to accept or understand, as illustrated by the article entitled Rihanna’s Family Want her Back with Chris Brown After Infidelity-Fueled Beating.
PHOTOS: The Chris Brown Incident on Good Morning America,including photos of Rihanna’s face before and after her assault.
In a large sample of battered black women, over 1/3 of the women who reported abuse had at least one subsequent incident of severe domestic violence in the same year. One in six experienced another less severe act of domestic violence.
Verizon’s HopeLine Program – A Source of Help for Victims of Domestic Violence
If an infidelity situation has escalated to violence, DO NOT attempt to explain,reason or argue with your husband or boyfriend at this time. Leave the premises and / or call for help.
Verizon has a national program which provides donated recycled cell phones to victims of domestic violence so they can access professional support quickly and confidentially.
By dialing #HOPE (#4673) then pressing send from one of the donated, recycled cell phones, or from any Verizon Wireless phone, callers are connected directly to the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE),where they can receive the confidential help they need through empowerment-based crisis intervention, information and resources. #HOPE is a service available across Verizon Wireless’ nationwide wireless network.
The call is toll and airtime free.
Through its HopeLine phone recycling and reuse program, Verizon helps domestic violence victims feel safer and less isolated by giving them a way to call emergency or support services, employers, family and friends.
If you are, or have been a victim of domestic violence because of infidelity, or any other reason, you are encouraged to utilize Verizon’s HopeLine program.
If you know of other women who are domestic violence victims or survivors, please share this information about Verizon’s HopeLine Program with them.
How to Donate a Used Cell Phone to Verizon’s HopeLine Program
To Donate In Person
- Drop phones at any Verizon Wireless Communications Store.
- To locate a store near you, visit the online Store Locator at www.verizonwireless.com/storelocator.
To Donate by Mail
- Go to www.verizonwireless.com/hopelinemailinglabel and print out a postage-paid label. Attach it to the box/envelope containing the phone, and mail.
- Review all shipping instructions carefully and include a return address on the label.
*** © copyright 2011 Ruth Houston / All Rights Reserved.
Ruth Houston is a New York-based infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on high profile infidelity and popular infidelity issues in the news. She is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com, the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, and publishes the Infidelity News and Views blog. To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, or have her speak at your next event, call 718 592-6029 or e-mail [email protected]
For practical,immediately-usable advice from an infidelity expert who has been researching infidelity for over 18 years, visit www.NationalInfidelity.com, or see the list of articles below.
12 Ways Infidelity Can Lead to Domestic Violence
How to Get a Cheater to Tell You the Truth about His Affair
9 Reasons a Cheater Will Lie About His Affair
7 Ways to Catch Your Cheating Husband Off Guard by Making a Preemptive Strike
When Should You Hire a Private Investigator to Check Out a Cheating Mate?
2 Major Obstacles to Taking a Cheater Back
Should You Take a Cheater Back? – How to Decide
When to Give Cheater a Second Chance
Will You Be the Next Unsuspecting Woman to Become a Victim of Infidelity?
Is He Cheating on You? – 6 Articles to Help You Understand His Infidelity
What You Need to Know Before Using a GPS Tracker to Catch Your Cheating Mate
How the New Technology Exposed 11 Cheating Mates
The Best Investment You Can Make in Your Relationship for 2011
Online Resources to Help You Catch or Monitor a Cheating Mate
FREE Infidelity Tip Sheets for Men and Women with Cheating Mates