On occasion we’ll go to a friend about a situation we’re having and receive what we believe to be solid advice. Months later when it appears that very same friend is now faced with the same issue, they do something entirely different. Have you ever thought to yourself “Why didn’t they follow their own advice?”
When someone is a friend we must know that the advice they give to us is usually coming from a place of love. We shouldn’t stop short at the fact that they believe we deserve better and want the best for us. If you don’t think so, then maybe you should take a look at the friendship.
If a friend has not been in the same situation before, they can’t really tell you what to do. That friend can only tell you what they believe the right thing is. Even if they’ve been through the same situation they should only tell you what happened when they were in it and the outcome. It also would be a good idea for them to share with you what they could’ve done differently.
When people don’t follow their own advice you can choose to look at it a few different ways:
- Maybe they are unsure if they deserve better. Sometimes we believe we know how a friend feels about themselves but maybe they have some deep insecurity about their own situation.
- Maybe their situation appears to be the same but in fact, the equation is not. Maybe they have more to think about than what your situation was. Are there children involved? If so, maybe that’s the difference.
- What if they saw what you went through, realized that it didn’t work for you and took a different route.
- Maybe they just outright believe their situation to be different.
- Maybe your friend has grown and when the same situation presented itself they did something different because the advice they gave you is no longer relevant. Growing and being a little more seasoned might mean they now know better.
- Maybe they were telling you what they thought you wanted to hear.
If you thought to yourself “why didn’t they follow their own advice” did you share that with them? When you saw their situation heading in the same direction did you stop them and give them the same advice they once gave you?
When someone has not been in the same situation or knows someone else that was previously in that situation they may not be the ideal person to ask for advice. Most of us don’t know what we’ll do in any given situation until we’re actually faced with that issue. Have you always followed your own advice?
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