Wedding ceremonies are often met with a blend of seriouness and happiness. It’s a joyous occasion that unites friends and family to witness the promise of love between two people. There is no rule that says that you can’t have fun during the ceremony. One of the ways to begin to inject your brand of humor into the wedding is during the wedding vows.
Humor helps to lighted the mood and indicates to guests that you are not all business, but know how to have fun. When there is laughter during the ceremony you can almost feel the wall of tension and formality slowly melt away. When you allow for humor to happen in begins to prepare your guests to have fun later in the evening during the reception.
When considering writing funny vows you can use the rules of comedy to get a laugh. One of the rules of comedy is the list of 3’s. When you hear a joke you notice that the first two things are normal and the third is considered the punchline.
The way this would work in a vow might sound something like this:
Bride to Groom: “I take you, John, to have and to hold, or until the yearly shoe sale at Nordstrums”
Groom to Bride: “I take you, Jenny, to have and to hold, for richer or for pooer, in sickness and in health, except during the a Mariners v. Redsox game, in which case if Boston wins I might I was well let death do us part”
The last part of the vow is your “punchline”. The guests are not expecting it and the laughter will instantly create a sense of connection with everyone.
This is the most powerful aspect of laughter; the connection that is made with other people. During the vows you have an opportunity to send a message to all present that your love for each other is such that you know how to play together.
Here are some things you can do to kick off your wedding with funny vows:
A twist on traditional vows
- Announce traditional promises with a twist at the end
- Create your own promises that although humorus, are real. Some popluar topics include things that either one of you typically do not like to handle such as oil changes, toilet seats, TV romotes, shoppoing, etc. the key is that you make a promise to do the opposite of what is exepected. Example for Groom: “Promise to put down toilet seat in the middle of the night.” Example for Bride: “Promise to make an appointment for an oil change every 3,000 miles all…all on my own”
- Include the them of the location in your vows or where you were proposed to. For example if you are getting married on a Yacht you can add sailing and journey references. “I promise to sail away with you anywhere and be your boss…I mean your captain…I mean your crew when the seas get rough.”
What you say and do is completely open to interpretation. Consider each other’s style and personality and allow yourself to reveal parts of your relationship with your guest. Remember although your guests are family and friends, many have not witnessed your love as a couple. This is the first time they have seen you in this way, so give them an opportunity to get to know you as a partnership.
Humor opens the doors for intimate and fun interactions. You can also include the Officiant into the fun by having her ask funny questions in a serious manor. The contradiction of the tone and the funny question will amuse guests and listen intently to the responses.
A twist for the Officiant:
- The Officiant can ask serious questions in a funny way or
- The officiant can ask funny questions in a serious way
- Share your love story with anectdoes that reveals couple’s humorous natur
Vows are promises you are making to each other to keep for the rest of your lives. Why not throw some extras just to make sure you are covered! When you add humor to your vows not only will people enjoy the ceremony even more, but the vows are likely to be remebered longer because the audience become involved in the moment through laughter.
Laughter helps people to connect, engage, and remember. If you want your vows to be remember make it funny!